Recently a journalist asked me a whole lot of questions about balance. I found myself resisting the questions and realised that for me, balance is a myth! We have been sold the idea that balance is the Holy Grail and if we attain it, all will be well in our world! I have two businesses and a life I love… I KNOW that is SO not true!! Are you with me here? When was the last time you found balance and how long did you keep it for?
When you have balance you have inertia. When you have balance you are always precariously waiting for something to shift and then you have to go off in search of balance again. A healthy work/life balance is a cruel joke – it doesn’t exist in the way the media would like to portray it. We are human BEings – not human balances!
So, what else is possible here? I choose to BE flow rather than chase balance. Flow is living the life you love underpinned by an essence of bliss and joy.
When there is flow, we can find an ease to everything, possibilities arrive effortlessly and there is clarity around priorities and creating the life we desire – we thrive!
With balance, we are always striving to fit everything in, always trading off self, home, family and work commitments.
A healthy ‘balance’ to me is when flow is achieved on a daily basis – there is room for fluidity, flexibility, creativity and new potentials – we are open to possibilities rather than having things be a specific way and only that way! When we stop controlling everything it opens up paths to our desire that may look illogical but actually offer the shortcuts to success we have been searching for.
When in flow we operate from a space of expanding what’s possible, rather than limiting our life to ensure we can achieve balance. (I add choices to my life, rather than making either/or decisions which limit me).
When in flow we have awareness of what is required and what is possible, and we are willing to have freedom of choice, rather than a long list of ‘have-to, must-do, should-do’ items that derail us from our flow.
What is the worst thing that could happen if you didn’t fulfil the list? Who could help you with that list? What could you stop doing that no-one would notice? What’s next? These are all questions that will help with creating flow. And none of them require you to have balance – just the willingness to choose ease!
Awareness creates choice. Choice creates flow. Flow creates ease. Balance does not create choice, awareness, flow or ease! The quest for balance creates structure and rigidity and limitations.
What would it take for us all to have more awareness and more flow? Discover more through my free 'Festival of Flow e-class… I desire to create a Festival of Flow in the world… sounds way more enticing than balance don’t you think?
Love your work!
Lisa
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